Archive for March 2007

How does Positive Beliefs and Values Help Us to Excel?

March 31, 2007

This was one of the questions that was asked to me when I was invited as the guest speaker on the radio show:

How does Positive Beliefs and Values Help Us to Excel?

Since we know that beliefs and values are motivators and directly influence our thinking, feeling and action in our lives, they will also affect our productivity and happiness.

For example,
Situation: a person has failed before in a given task or project and was reprimanded by the boss.

With negative beliefs and values: he will avoid being part of similar projects in future and avoid actively participating or sharing his ideas, afraid of being scolded by boss again.

With positive beliefs and values: he will find out what he has done wrong previously, learn from it and seeks to improve by taking on new or similar tasks. He eventually becomes better through practice.

Are your own beliefs and values positive?


How to Make Your Date Great!

March 31, 2007

This is what I previously posted at the other forum:


Just to say a Happy Valentine’s Day to all !!! Very Happy Here are a few tips to make your date great when you are out together….

* Focus on the quality of being together, not on the food or the expenses.

* Its not a day of master and servant, if you know what i mean… lol

* Remove envy, embrace appreciation.

* Reflect on the rolling good times, remember being together.
* The world is your oyster, harvest it!

* Connection, Connection, Connection!

* Its never the end, its just the beginning…

* Play the Game.

* Have FUN!!!

For me on the night before V day, I am invited by the nurses to give a talk to them about Dating, Attraction and RElationships at the National Cancer Center. I am very excited and also raring to go!!

May Love spreads to all!

My Two Cents Worth

March 31, 2007

It is often that we hear different words and advice from people. Some appeal to our ears while we scorn at others. However, sometimes those advice might truly make a difference between success and failure or life and death.

History has shown time and again, it is not neccessary those long hours of preaching or nagging by others that make a difference, but the right words at the right time that alleviate us from where we are.

If only we open up our eyes and prick up our ears to listen, we just might hear a certain two cents worth that can make a difference to our lives.

I’ve heard my fair share of two cents worth advice. Have you?

The Art of Brushing Your Teeth

March 31, 2007

Many of us view brushing our teeth as a daily routine and it is often taken for granted. Nobody thinks much about it anymore.

“What’s the big deal about brushing your teeth anyway? Its nothing!” so they say.

Do you remember that it was SOMETHING before it became NOTHING? .. before you learn how to brush it, it was something we had to practise for a while, be it at home or in school.

When we were young, and I mean really young, brushing your teeth was, in a way, a monumental task. Perhaps we envied the adults as we observed how proficient they were at brushing, perhaps we grappled with the right way to brush our teeth. No matter what, brushing our teeth was something we had to learn in order to do well… we had to start with something.

However, just think, if you can now brush your teeth with excellence, you can transfer that excellence in brushing teeth unto whatever task or goals you intend to accomplish.

It was something which we did not first know when we were born, yet we can do it now effortlessly. The strategies are yet so similiar to other things we do in life. In what way?

Firstly, do you remember the real purpose of brushing your teeth?

Are you able to now recall the steps and techniques of brushing your teeth.

Even more so, are the brushes on your toothbrush still upstanding and not furry and the toothpaste of a suitable kind?

Owing to the hurried pace of life, many people brush their teeth as a way of just ensuring they have gone through the “morning ritual”. Be it well done or not. In short, these people have lost sight of their reason for brushing.

1) Therefore, you start with the Purpose of brushing your teeth. Just in case, anyone has forgotten, it is: To keep your teeth clean from dirt and prevent tooth decay.

2) Next, you get yourself the Tools for brushing: the toothbrush, toothpaste and of course, your teeth.

3) Put the tools to right use, no point getting them and not using, leaving it in the closet. Its a waste of money.

4) Apply the techniques to the tools, in short, the steps of brushing your teeth properly.

5) What did your own dentist say? Was it to begin with the molars first and brush 5 times or to begin from the inner side of the back teeth? Well, someone will have to either teach or inspire you, isn’t it?

Whatever the techniques are, so long as they work to get your teeth cleaned.

6) Feel your teeth and check that it is done to your satisfaction. If not, find out why, re-brush or brush it in another way. Do it more or do it different.

7) Repeat the procedures, brush your teeth daily to get your teeth cleaned.

Translated to accomplishing your goals, they are:

1) Know your Purpose.

2) Get the Tools to fulfill your purpose.

3) Use the tools.

4) Apply the Techniques and steps neccessary.

5) Learn from a Mentor, coach or teacher.

6) Evaluate the Results. Are you there yet? If not, do it more or do it differently?

7) Repeat regularly and you will be on your way to Excel Beyond Excellence!

Taking the 7 key points:

Purpose, Tools, Use, Techniques, Mentor, Results, Repeat.

Now apply these points to whatever task you intend to achieve. Remember, if you can brush your teeth will excellence, then you can also accomplish tasks with excellence!

The ‘Drama Mommas’ of Our Lives

March 30, 2007

Throughout the different phases of our lives, we face various challenges and conflicts. We have those rare few that face them calmly, and a fair bit of those who make a big drama out of it. As I was watching the movies that played out on the screen, a thought came to mind, “How do real people handle the crisis that unfold?”

Will it be as dramatic as the actors and actresses?

Will they be numb to it?

Or will they learn to keep the cool and make the best of it?

The first group will want to make a big hoo-haa and create the drama, that their ‘sufferings’ be spread and their pains be felt by those around them. You can hear their wailing miles away and those screeching takes the life of out of you. They are the “Drama Mommas” (its just rhymes, nothing to do with genders.)

The second group has grown and learn to accept such life tragedies and no longer want to feel anything about it. They grow numb to life’s joy and sadness, becoming ‘dead to the world’. Say hello to the “Zombies”. Its okay, they won’t hear you anyway.

The last group recognizes that such life events are inevitable and discovers that no matter how bad the situations are, there are ways to make the best use of that as a challenge. They adapt and adopt what work, discarding what has presented as obstacles and sought to push ahead. They keep learning and growing from those experience. The “Excellors” constantly sought to excel beyond excellence.

The next time a crisis pops up unexepectly and seems to hurt, which category will you fall in?

Have You Taken Your Chill Out Time Today?

March 29, 2007

Many of us seems to be caught up with the hustles and bustles of life that we simply lost track of time and of how events have passed us by. Yet I have discovered over the years that if you take time to chill out, you get to stablize yourself and reenergize so as to become even more productive.

Within ourselves, there should be…

A time to cool down.

A time to let yourself rest.

A time to store up energy.

A time to smell the roses, instead of just being busy.

Have you taken your chill out time today?

Change your Mind, Change your World

March 28, 2007

Your world begins in your mind… what comes in your mind is the way you shape your world..

How do you want to shape your world?

A Time for Excellence…

March 28, 2007

For more than 16 years as a speaker, trainer and consultant, I have encountered plenty of interesting incidents and stories from my seminars and daily life. Some are funny, some sad while others make you reflect and think.

I have always written down these thoughts on paper and in my notebook. They have now piled up, stacked against each other and perhaps awaiting the erosion effect to disintegrate the yellowed papers. Not only is it now a time for excellence, its also a time for me to transfer some of these ideas, learnings and lessons unto my blog.

Hence, this blog, Excel Beyond Excellence!, serves as a collection of my various learnings and reflection over all these 16 years and more. A site that is dedicated towards sharing about personal growth and professional excellence in various areas of our lives.

Enjoy reading…