Archive for April 10, 2007

Close Your Eyes, What Do You See?

April 10, 2007

The ironic thing about life is that sometimes we see so many things with our eyes that we lost track of what we really want to see in our lives. The beautiful fashions, the colorful billboards, the moving toys and gadgets may distract us from time to time. We got lost, irritated by the minor incidents, overwhelmed by the glorious mounuments, distracted by the mundane tasks.
Yet, we all need to sometimes move on with our life’s journey… WAIT, what journey??

Where are we going anyway?

Precisely, where are we going? When we don’t even see our destination…

Close your eyes, what do you see?

“Black!” “Darkness!” “Nothing!” someone called out.

Now this exactly brings a case in point: opening our eyes brings us distractions while closing your eyes brings us nothingness.

Then where are we really going? All over the place or nowhere?

Close Your Eyes, Sometimes we see better.

“Why Not?!”

April 10, 2007

These two words can be the turning point in the extend of your life’s richness and expansion of it. It is because of these two words that monuments are built, boundaries are pushed and history are made. Yet it can also be that due to these two words that greatness are diminished, positives becomes negatives and regrets become eternal.

“Why Not?!” can invite a long list of reasons and arguments about how it cannot be done or impossible to make things happen.

“Why Not?!” can also incite the spirit of adventure, of enterprise and of challenge to push people onwards and upwards.

Therefore, “Why Not?!” is actually a double-edged sword. It can also used as a exclamation comment (!) or as a question (?). Both functions have their appropriate usage in different scenarios.


In a business, an executive made a suggestion, “Let’s run a campaign for this product. My plans are as follows …”

Scene 1)

Someone asked,”Why Not?”

Then a series of replies came, “because we are too new, too much trouble, lack of funding, etc…”

Everyone found an excuse to not execute the campaign.

Scene 2)

After the presentation of the product marketing ideas, someone commented,”Why not!”

Everyone gets excited and could not wait to work on the new campaign. They started and found that despite the occasional hiccups, it was an overall success.


Similar structure also happen in dating and relationships.

After asking “Why not?”, one can give all the “rationale” why he/she should not call or pursue the love interest.

“I’m too poor, too ugly, too short, too tall, too dumb,…” (you get the idea…)

On the other hand, a person can contemplate… “Shall I call her/him?”

Then, exclaimed excited, “Why Not!”

The person called up the love interest, built a relationship and got together.


All of us have ideas, we all have opinions and all of us have dreams.

You can let “Why not?!” stop you or let “Why not?!” drive you.

Chit-Chat Charm: How Small Talk Can Mean a Big Thing?

April 10, 2007

All these years in my DARE (Dating, Attraction and RElationships), sales, negotiation and various communication workshops, I have always emphasized on the importance of small talk.

I call this: Chit-Chat Charm, where you can turn on your charm in the midst of making chit-chats and small talks with people.

In reality, Chit-Chat Charm can make a very big difference in your life, be it personal or professional. Sales are closed, new friends are made, relationships are built and people also get attached.

Hence, your charm in Chit-Chating often become the key factor in achieving certain goals or just simply making life better for yourself.

For example, in my recent communication workshop, a man used some of the Chit-Chat ideas and found a new love relationship, while a lady shared how she used the chit-chat skills she learnt to close a massive sales deal and improved her own family relationships.

In DARE and AAA (Art of Accelerated Attraction), new strategies were shared and new acquaintances were often made, setting the framework for more romance and relationships.

Some of the benefits of using your Chat-Chat Charm include:

1) Increase your rapport and trust for each other

2) Give others a different better opinion

3) Changing mindsets

4) Draw people closer to you

5) Increase your charm and charisma

6) Establish better relationships

7) Expand your social and professional network

Take time to chit-chat with people and friends, make time to create the chance for chit-chat and you can experience an even happier life.

Remember, small talk can truly mean a big thing.

Up your Chit-Chat Charm!