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Friday The 13th: The Unluckiest Day?

April 13, 2007

Rumour has it that Friday the 13th is the unluckiest day of all time. It is supposed to be that on this day, everything goes wrong. Things strangely go missing and events occur out of the norm, mostly in varying negative manners.

It is a phobia that goes back a long way to various ancient history and mythology, ranging from the offering of the forbidden fruit by Eve to Adam on a Friday, the murder of Abel by his brother Cain, the thirteenth guest, Judas Iscariot the betrayer, at the Last Supper, the Crucifixion of Christ on a Friday to the mass arrests of the Templar Knights by King Philip IV of France in 13 October, 1307. (You can always contribute more to this long list of origins for this infamous set of date.)

* For the interested, the fear of Friday the 13th is called paraskavedekatriaphobia or friggatriskaidekaphobia. (Give me a call if you can pronounce these two terms of Friday the 13th phobia.)

How about you? How is your day so far? Is it peaceful or uneventful?

More so, the real question is: So what if it is really going to be the unluckiest day? Is it going to stop you from doing what you want?

The truth is researches have shown no real upsurge of unlucky events on this day any more than other days. Perhaps you might beg to differ. Its perfectly all right. We agree to disagree.

Of course there are always those who swear by this day, anticipating the arrival of mishaps and tragedies. Hence they detest waking up this day. (Who looks forward to a day of misfortune?)

Just think, what if the phobia of is more of a figment on one’s imagination? Would one have wasted an entire day based on a phobia by doing nothing?

To me, an unluckiest day is perhaps a wasted day. A day that has gone by without new learning and discoveries. A day that has not contributed to your well-being and progress in life. 24 hours, 1440 minutes or 86,400 seconds of nothingness, however way you want to look at it.

Even if Friday the 13th is filled with frustration, making you frantic or panic, it would at least be a day where you get to train yourself to be more composed and collected. A day where your character is put to the test. Your temper and quick wittedness for solutions is pushed to the limit. At the end of it, you develop a stronger, tougher personality because of all these challenges and crisis. After all, if you can survive “the unluckiest day”, you can survive any other day.

(For those who choose to face challenges of life boldly and strive to “survive”, the next Friday the 13th will be in July this year.)

Therefore think about it. Is Friday the 13th truly the unluckiest day? Or are you the one who actually made it so?

Be well. Stay well.

Live well and Excel.

DARE You Make A Date?

April 13, 2007

The feature profiling me as well as my training and coaching was published on The New Paper. For the many well-wishes that I’ve received through phone calls, emails and SMS, I truly thank you. Indeed I sincerely appreciate your support, sharing and friendships over all these years. To all my participants and clients, it has been an honor to be able to share my thoughts and work with you.

For those who have read the article on The New Paper, 12 April 2007, entitled: “Make a Date with The Coach“, you will notice that I mentioned in the interview about DARE: Dating, Attraction and RElationships, one of my most popular workshops.

It’s about guts and confidence. Do they dare to make a change to their lives?” I said.

Indeed it’s really about how daring are we at creating new possibilities, not just for ourselves but for others. And how badly do we want to change it?

Are we daring enough to ignore the fear, the hesitation and the apprehension that stop us?

For all the potential and the driving engine that lie within us, we can summon these and the ability to overcome various obstacles, both inner and relational. I have seen this happen many times. Those who dare enough will be able to discover the resources and strategies to make things better, and a new life unfolds.

We can make a date with change and improvement. It can be done…

As long as we DARE.

Is there a person you’ve been secretly admiring?

Has there been someone you’ve been wanting to date?

Is there a current marriage you’ve wanting to improve?

Have you been wanting to take a step closer in your relationship?

Do you want to add new zest with your long term partner?

Do you want to stay away from those lonely sleepless nights?

Is there a change you’ve been wanting to make in your life?

You can always make a date to improve your life…
As long as you DARE!