Archive for June 2, 2007

Take Care versus Take Charge

June 2, 2007

It’s a common phrase for us to utter whenever we part company with our friends or business associates for the day. We ask them to ‘take care’ and go on our ways. ‘Take care’ has evolved to be more like a figure of speech that has somewhat becomes a cliche, nice to hear but we are numb to the meaning of it. Mostly spoken just to nicely wrap up a conversation or a meeting.

Just think, seconds before we say goodbye to our friends, we are asked to ‘take care’. But how many of us really do take care on the very next task like crossing the road or boarding a transport? As we embark on a certain challenging task, do we really remember the words of our well-meaning friend to ‘take care’ as we perform the task?

To explore slightly deeper, the word ‘take care’, in my opinion, seems to mean… things are going to happen to your life, so you better be careful or be cautious.

It’s a defensive position. Awaiting events or situations to unfold and affect us while we remain vigilant about it. It puts us to a point of a certain level of helplessness in terms for the occurrence of the life events. In short, it’s passive.

“It’ll occur on its own, we’re helpless to stop it so let’s just be careful when it happens to us.” Therefore, you take care.

On the other hand, when we take charge, we take a different stance. We become offensive and active.

We pump in a certain level of adrenaline, take up our arms and march towards that particular life event or situation. Our aim is to stop whatever event from happening and shape them into whatever we want.

The moment we take charge, we put ourselves in control of our lives. Working on ways to make thing better. Using our talents, resources and assets within ourselves and externally to design, shape and craft our very next second of life. We become overlord of our own lives, masters of our destiny… because we take charge.

Hence ‘take care’ is awaiting things to happen as we remain careful. ‘Take charge’ is making things happen as we remain in charge.

Which side would you rather be on? The passive side or the active side.

For me, my choice is clear.

Next time before you part with your friends, it’ll also be interesting to tell them to ‘take charge’ instead of ‘take care’. It’ll be fun to watch that bewildered, puzzled look on your friends and the raising of eyebrows as they go.. “huh??!” 🙂

Explain to them it’s your sincere wish for them to take charge of their lives and make things happen instead of waiting for things to happen.

When you want to excel, you must take charge.

Take charge.