Top Ten List of Love?

He must be rich.
She has to be pretty.
He must be smart.
She must be cute.
He must have a great career.
She must dress well.
He must be handsome.
She must be adored by others

Have you heard of these before? These criteria seem to formulate themselves in a person’s mindset when it comes to searching for a partner.

As a result, it becomes a quest to tick off a checklist of characteristics of people they meet, hopefully to pick the one that fulfills most of the items on the list.

Perhaps you find that the person fulfills your top ten requirements for a partner, then ask yourself how much you care for that person, and in what way?

Considering further, as you look around the potential love, you will find out soon enough although that person does not even fit into that top ten requirement, you’d love him/her anyway.

If you love a person, got into a relationship with him, yet still hoping that he will fulfill the top ten, then you will experience dissatisfaction. Perhaps you will be constantly attempting to change the person to become what your list demands. Its like reality versus ideal.

But that’s not him/her.

Why not drop your top ten and focus on your affection for him or her instead. In this way, no matter he/she fits any top ten or not, both of you will still be happy together… because you focus on the love instead of the list.

Lists don’t matter, love does…

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