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5 Things You Should Watch Out To Provide A Sense Of Stability And Steadiness At Work

September 29, 2008

As this is another work week where people engage in various commercial and institutional events, it’s imperative that you take positive action to provide that much needed stability in the midst of the busyness. This will also help your workplace acquire a sense of steadiness and fair predictability.

In some of my recent coaching and consultations to companies, I advised on certain elements that will be helpful to create a better workplace culture. Here are some of the things you should watch out for to create that dependability in your work environment.

1. Watch out for your display of Emotional Intelligence at work

2. Watch out for the way you communicate.

3. Watch out for how your work relationships are build.

4. Watch out for how conflicts arise and nip them in the bud before they escalate.

5. Watch out for the efficiency in your work responsibilities.

Now, Who’s Your Mentor? Exploring The Beauty Of Mentoring

September 25, 2008

Having been a Mentor to various individuals and certain organizations for years, I derived even greater insights than before on the essence of effective mentoring. This improvement concept does bring with it a myriad of benefits, and they are all beautiful benefits:

For the Mentee,

1. Mentoring shaves of years of unnecessary mistakes in the process, shortening the learning curve.

2. Mentoring brings to him the ‘insider’ and “behind the scene’ look at how the organizations and industry is like, really like.

3. Mentoring allows him to be specific in reducing his actual weaknesses and extending his strengths, giving him a more powerful advantage in whatever industry he is in.

For the Mentor,

4. Mentoring allows him to practice his leadership and coaching skills beyond where he is now.

5. Mentoring lets him play out and experiment different concepts of subjects that he already knew.

6. Mentoring brings to him a sense of satisfaction knowing that he has played a significant role in grooming and changing someone’s life for the better.

For the Organization,

7. Mentoring provides it a possible leadership and managerial succession plan and evolving line of command.

8. Mentoring allows the organization to discover hidden talents within the organization, with likelihood of greater loyalty from the individual.

9. Mentoring saves the organization money in retraining and orientating a total outsider and reduced wastage of resources.

Most of all,

10. Mentoring allows everybody to Excel Beyond Excellence!

Facilitating Thoughts: What Essential Items Must You Have BEFORE Your Meetings And Discussions Begin To Make The Sessions Fruitful

September 19, 2008

As you run your meetings, it’s imperative that the members are focused unto the meeting itself. Today, at the second day of “WITs Facilitators’ Course”, we kept these in perspectives as we discussed on the tough issues and essential items to apply in meetings.

One of the areas I got every participant to look at are the moments before the actual beginning of the meeting and discussions. These moments set the pace for the entire flow of the sessions, hence they warrant careful considerations.

In order to have a meaningful and fruitful session as facilitator-leader, here are the items that you must consider before your meetings and discussions begin:

1. Set the frame work and agenda of the meeting so everyone knows where the meeting is heading.

2. Get everyone to arrive prepared with their relevant information before the meeting begins.

3. Lay out the ground rules of the meeting where everybody must agree and abide.

Grab It Before It Grabs You! 7 Key Steps To Get A Grip On Stress In Your Life.

September 12, 2008

It was another ultra packed and fast paced day for me yesterday. After wrapping up the 2 full days training on “Time and Stress Management” for a major statutory board, I sped unto the next venue to conduct the “What Women Want” seminar in the evening. Time was of the essence while I had to cover the contents of both these trainings and still move from one place to another in double quick time. What a “stressful” day… And I LOVED IT!!! 😀

Stress does occur in our lives. It is a respond to our characters, our attitudes and our lifestyles. The key difference lies in how you grabble with it, turning whatever is seemingly negative into a positive motivator in your life.

Here are the key steps to enable you to better assess your stress causing factor and grab it before it grabs you:

1. Find out what stresses you, the stressor.

2. Talk about it with some coach or mentor or simply someone you can trust who is positive. If there’s no one, talk to yourself.

3. Discover if there could be other inner causes that lead you to feel this way. Decide if it’s an integration of factors or an isolation of one.

4. Test out your respond to your own stress level by removing that stressor or those factors. How do you feel now?

5. Note down what changes occurred if you view that stressor differently? For example: giving it less importance, making it so overwhelming?

6. Commit to view it from a positive paradigm that you’ve developed and allow it to be a “push-motivational” factor from now on.

7. Adjust and re-adjust your lifestyle to work around that stressor.

It’s Not Just About Work! 7 Areas You MUST REALLY Pay Attention To At Your Workplace For Your Own Career Excellence

September 8, 2008

At the beginning of this work week, it will be a helpful and enriching idea to start pondering about your career with respect to your life. Whenever I’m conducting coaching and counseling for group participants and individuals, I’ve highlighted that work is not just about work.

It’s a lot more. And you have to be aware of them or else your career outcome may not be as productive as you wish to be. In fact, merely putting your career on work alone tends to lead to stagnation at best and retardation of career at worse.

If you wish to know what are others must you really pay attention to, here are the areas:

1. The quality of your work and your competency, and not just merely work.

2. Your relationships with all the people in your life.

3. The way you communicate with your bosses, colleagues and customers and the way you serve them.

4. The clarity of your work responsibilities and your role.

5. The values that your presence bring.

6. Your personal career progress that fits your goals and dreams in life.

7. The overall fulfillment of the company’s objectives via your work performance.

8 ‘C’ Steps To Overcome Crisis in Your Life

September 1, 2008

In life, we do face that occasional crisis. For some, they occur once in a long while and to others, it seems to be a regular happening. From the departure of loved ones to the onslaught of health matters or even a major financial disaster, one might find these too much to bear. But bear, endure and preserve you must.

You might ask why do they arise? It’s a question that its beyond our human mind and comprehension. The mysterious setting of situations and the triggering of events demand that you understand the bigger picture of how everything works in this life. It’s a question that most social scientists, philosophers and the likes have debated over the millennium.

During the private coaching and counseling sessions, I’ve worked with a number of individuals facing such crisis and more. Recently I’ve counseled a friend who felt lost in the challenges of living and barely surviving in the storms of life. We worked through intensively on the issues and the paradigms begin this. And I’m extremely pleased to report that this friend-client of mine is now on the way to a much better and empowered lifestyle.

What then can one do when a crisis dawns, here are the 8 C steps to help you overcome the crisis:

1. Calm your emotions

2. Clear your mind

3. Craft out a resolution plan

4. Customize it to the specific situation

5. Clean out the cause of the crisis

6. Create the emotion of enthusiasm in your endeavor, no matter what.

7. Carry out your plan

8. Continue to see the possibilities and the positives

The 3 Trigger Keys Of Relationships: What Makes You Want That Person Romantically?

August 22, 2008

Yesterday I had a couple of coaching sessions, one was a public speaking coaching while the other that followed was an individualized relationship coaching. In that particular period of working on the client’s attraction factor, I discussed on what makes a person want someone romantically.

It was a rather in-depth session where lots of ideas and improvement were made for the client. I’m definitely glad that the client was happy with the clear series of next steps to take. It will surely improve one’s life for the better.

Hence, what triggers you to want to be in a relationship with a particular person? They are:

1. Your feelings toward that person.

2. Your idea of the future prospects of being with that person.

3. The values displayed by that person that synergize with yours. (Please note: it does NOT mean that both your values must match or must be compatible.) It just means how the values of that person can play a part in your own values. And they come in 2 forms: Conscious Values and Unconscious/Subliminal Values.

5 Key Principles Of Reframing Problems

August 18, 2008

It was amazing today with whatever we’ve shared. I conducted 2 runs of trainings back-to-back within one day, all with full number of participants. It was most enriching and the pace was exhilarating.

I’ve designed this training, Reframing Problems into Opportunities, specifically as a means to assist people to see their world or ‘problems’ differently, gaining new insights and opportunities in the process. The process is purposefully created to empower the individuals to perceive things in a more productive and purposeful manner as well as improve their skills to better guide others in their lives.

Here are some of the key principles that affect how we can reframe problems:

Principle of Subjective Reality: We don’t know reality. We only perceive our own subjective versions in our mind.

Principle of Self Empowerment: You must be able to see beyond first before you can help others to see further.

Principle of Rapport: You must gain and maintain rapport, trust and credibility in order to reframe the problem in others.

Principle of Limited Perception: This limitation causes mere situations to be viewed as problems because people are unable to perceive beyond.

Principle of Inherent Assumption: The assumptions within us create plenty of misunderstandings and relationship issues, leading to an escalation of problems. A vicious cycle of problem is hence formed.

How You Can Help Your Clients To Excel. Discover The 7 Ways To Effective And Positive Befriending

August 3, 2008

Although it was Sunday today, I have total admiration for the Befrienders who were ever so committed and turned up for the full-day training. When I concluded the 2 weekend Befrienders’ Training, it dawned upon me that these participant were simply so willing to give of their time and effort to some families they hardly know. My respect and admiration for them grew even more.

As they proceed after today upon becoming functioning Befrienders, I urged them to keep working towards creating that goodness and perpetuating that willingness to improve. The effort, despite the challenges, will always be worthhile.

Further to this, here are more ways you can help your clients to excel in their lives through befriending them:

1. Understand the real problem that are hidden behind their communication

2. Check back with your own resources and support networks to ensure you can provide sufficient aid.

3. Don’t spoonfeed your client with no valid reasons, groom them to help themselves.

4. Keep the end results promise realistic and achieveable. Avoid over-raising expectations unnecessarily

5. Share your own success encounters, so that they may take heed and follow as example.

6. Draw them out by being an effective active and reactive listener.

7. Always brew the foundation of integrity and the element of trust. Friendship comes with trust.

The 5 Essential Abilities You Must Have To Manage Negativity In Your Interactions and Relationships

July 27, 2008

Today was the first day of the Befrienders’ Course. We’ve covered the key essentials and the know-how of being a Befriender. On the next Sunday, I will be conducting the second day of this training where I will show them how to interact well with their clients, creating positive outcomes for themselves and others.

The overall purpose of this course is to equip these Befrienders with the essential skills to better relate with their assigned families. These families have multiple issues and are in lesser privileged situations. It’s becomes imperative that the Befrienders are oriented to cater to the differing demands of these families.

Hence here are the abilities you must have to better manage the negative situations.

1. Have powerful mental states to remain assertive and influential

2. Use optimism to handle pessimism artfully.

3. Create humor to connect and draw people closer.

4. Display appreciation and acknowledgement of who they are.

5. Be resourceful to provide aid when needed.