Archive for the ‘Interpersonal and Relational’ category

How To Network And Communicate Your Way To Success With People?

October 8, 2008

I love the training over these 2 days! At my workshop on “Network and Communicate Your Way to Success”, we’ve interacted immensely, laughed heartily and discussed intensively the real life and relevant issues. Participations were strongly encouraged to express their viewpoints and demonstrate their networking abilities. Upon reflection, so much learning has taken place.

In addition, here are some of the ways to network and communicate with people who will help you towards your life path of success:

1. Seek to establish personal credibility and integrity.

2. Be receptive and open to different opinions and types of people you meet.

3. Maintain a fair balance of tact and diplomacy in your mannerisms.

4. Reciprocate in kind upon receiving recommendations and assistance.

5. Enhance your sense of personal touch, rapport and connection with people.

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7 SHAREEE Ways To Create, Build And Sustain A Successful Mentoring Relationship

October 7, 2008

I was giving a talk tonight to the NUS Toastmasters about Mentoring. Over the months, the Club has managed to put together a more formalized Mentorship Program. The response tonight was overwhelming and the energy was extremely high. Kudos to the organizers for their efforts in bringing everyone, both the Mentors and Mentees, to the same place.

During my segment, I shared with the audience the 7 useful ways to create, build and sustain the relationship between Mentors and Mentees that will foster camaraderie. It’s a series of SHAREEE ways:

System. Have a system of contact and guidance, both agreeable between the mentor and the mentee.

Honesty. Be acceptable to frank opinions and be open to share constructive criticism.

Accessibility. You can’t build a relationship with an invisible man. Both of you will have to be somewhat accessibility and available to each other, to some reasonable degree.

Reflective. This enables you to reflect on your learning and progress as time passes, deepening the value of such a mentoring relationship

Empathy. Be in each other’s shoes to understand the inner motivations and causes of behaviours. This will enhance mutual appreciation of where the other party comes from.

Experienced. The Mentor will have to be experienced in guiding and providing suitable advice. The Mentee, on the other hand, will gain experience in being mentored the right way and benefit accordingly.

Excelling. Both of you must eventually grow in your own right and be excelling in your own designed dimensions. This becomes proves that your mentoring relationship is positive and has worked for you.

In short, you Excel Beyond Excellence!

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It’s Not What You Think It Is! 3 Things Relationships Are NOT!

October 4, 2008

I was conducting part 2 of “What Men Want” last night. This was a private exclusive workshop for women only so the participants can raise personal issues and enquire about the workings on the other gender. I will then be able to answer specifically to their own situations. As a result, we were able to cover in-depth into how different genders function, think and act.

In addition, I will also like to highlights certain things that relationships are not:

1. Relationships are not about the activities you do, they are about what both of you derive out of what you do.

2. Relationships are not about the amount of time you spend together, they are about the quality of time you spend with each other.

3. Relationships are not about a list of things each one of you must become or do, it’s about accepting the differences of each other in who you are and what you do.

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7 Key Aspects You MUST Pay Attention To When Writing An Appealing Resume And Cover Letter

October 1, 2008

I’ve just finished conducting a very intensive two-day training yesterday on “Cover Letter, Resume and Email Writing” where we addressed some of the most pertinent issues in the job-seeking process.

As we explored the various strategies and options in writing these essentials tools in the search for jobs, the participants took note of the important yet often over-looked dimensions of cover letter and resume writing. I was pleased that everyone got started working on their letters and resumes and quite a few had produced high quality content. I wish every single one of them the very best in their job search endeavors.

Hence, if you are in the process of seeking for a new job or possibilities of career enhancement, here are the key aspects you must pay attention to when it comes to creating appealing resume and cover letter:

1. Customize them towards the individual job title, job scope, company and industry. It’s best to avoid using a ‘standard’ or ‘generic’ set of cover letter and resume for every single application you send. This will only reduce your chances as they will come across as ‘less fitting’ to what each company wants.

2. Typographical errors must be eliminated. They simply don’t provide any positive impression about you. This will not do you any justice.

3. Format them for easy reading. With the exception of cover letter, resumes should not be clumps or bunches of paragraphs where your talents are ‘hidden within the jungle’. Use bullet points and other formatting tools to enable your potential employers an easier time understanding you. On the other hand, cover letters’ paragraphing should also not be long essays with unbroken points.

4. Pay attention to the language used. As your choice of words and phrases affects the mind of the employers, take heed of using the appropriate words that will best highlight your positives and increase your chances.

5. Write them for your potential employers, instead of for yourself. Remember that your resume and cover letter is not a personal diary, writing for your own leisure reading. They are read by all the employers you send to. Therefore, write it through how they will read it, from their point, not from yours.

6. Emphasize your strengths in your letter and resume. Instead of hampering yourself or being too negative, work on bringing out your strengths and the positives through these articles. Seek a fair balance in the tone of your cover letter and draw out the affirmative aspects in your resumes.

7. Avoid unnecessary information in your cover letter and resume. Some job seekers clutter their resumes with things that are irrelevant and lost focus in the process. This will only seek to distract your potential employers from qualifying you as a likely candidate for their employment. Take care to leave out what are not necessary and put in the appropriate information in your letter and resume.

Here’s my sincerest wish to you for your success in job search. May you Excel Beyond Excellence!

*** To aid you further in your job seeking process and should you be looking out for online job sites or employment agencies, you can find some of the most helpful sites here:

Useful Job Search Sites: http://wekie.com/2007/11/06/useful-job-search-sites

Prominent Job and Employment Agencies: http://wekie.com/2008/05/13/prominent-job-and-employment-agencies

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5 Things You Should Watch Out To Provide A Sense Of Stability And Steadiness At Work

September 29, 2008

As this is another work week where people engage in various commercial and institutional events, it’s imperative that you take positive action to provide that much needed stability in the midst of the busyness. This will also help your workplace acquire a sense of steadiness and fair predictability.

In some of my recent coaching and consultations to companies, I advised on certain elements that will be helpful to create a better workplace culture. Here are some of the things you should watch out for to create that dependability in your work environment.

1. Watch out for your display of Emotional Intelligence at work

2. Watch out for the way you communicate.

3. Watch out for how your work relationships are build.

4. Watch out for how conflicts arise and nip them in the bud before they escalate.

5. Watch out for the efficiency in your work responsibilities.

7 Simple Steps To Negotiate And Network Your Way Through Life And On To Success

September 28, 2008

While yesterday was Saturday, I applaud the commitment of the different department managers who attended Day 2 of the in-house “Effective Negotiation Skills” training. We explored and discussed the various negotiation strategies and specific concepts that will take them further at work and in life.

I thoroughly enjoyed working with them and training them as everyone were highly responsive and interactive. There were laughter galore and lessons were imparted. They also took notes as we related real life experiences and examples.

And it’s obvious that in life, we do negotiate and interact with our network of friends. In the midst of all these interaction, we can take the opportunity to negotiate our way through life and on to success with the following steps:

1. Pay attention to what you are looking for in life.

2. Establish what you can offer to others that will benefit them, the greater the better.

3. Build up rapport and relationship with them as you interact and contact these people.

4. Request for a mutually beneficial collaboration with them.

5. Seek compromise on what both of you can agree on.

6. Put an agreed plan into place.

7. Keep each other updated and in contact for further refinements and continuing partnerships.

When you work on your negotiation skills, you can enhance your network to better benefit others and yourself to life’s success. Hence your life becomes one that Excels Beyond Excellence!

How Neuro-Linguistic Programming Helps You To Manage Your Human Resource Matters At The Workplace

September 27, 2008

I was invited to give a talk to a number of human resource mangers and leaders from various companies yesterday. The talk entitled, “Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Skills” enabled me to introduce to them the origin of NLP as well as sharing with them the various concepts and techniques that will empower them to become better HR managers.

The participants were highly interactive, fun-loving and made further enquires about this practical technology of human excellence. I was glad to provide the information which can direct them to what they are looking for. And their commitment to their jobs in implementing effective HR policies for their staffs earned my respect and salutation.

Similarly, when you apply the understanding of NLP technology and concepts unto your human resource matters and issues, you will discover that NLP:

1. Gives you specific strategies to build rapport and deepen relationships with the staffs at work, influencing them faster than before.

2. Guides you to better avoid, deflect and handle conflicts and tough situations arising from work.

3. Provides you the practical tools and relevant technology to better formulate human resource policies. It also takes you into effective implementation strategies that let your staff ‘buy-in’ to these policies or directives.

In short, NLP enables you to Excel Beyond Excellence!

Now, Who’s Your Mentor? Exploring The Beauty Of Mentoring

September 25, 2008

Having been a Mentor to various individuals and certain organizations for years, I derived even greater insights than before on the essence of effective mentoring. This improvement concept does bring with it a myriad of benefits, and they are all beautiful benefits:

For the Mentee,

1. Mentoring shaves of years of unnecessary mistakes in the process, shortening the learning curve.

2. Mentoring brings to him the ‘insider’ and “behind the scene’ look at how the organizations and industry is like, really like.

3. Mentoring allows him to be specific in reducing his actual weaknesses and extending his strengths, giving him a more powerful advantage in whatever industry he is in.

For the Mentor,

4. Mentoring allows him to practice his leadership and coaching skills beyond where he is now.

5. Mentoring lets him play out and experiment different concepts of subjects that he already knew.

6. Mentoring brings to him a sense of satisfaction knowing that he has played a significant role in grooming and changing someone’s life for the better.

For the Organization,

7. Mentoring provides it a possible leadership and managerial succession plan and evolving line of command.

8. Mentoring allows the organization to discover hidden talents within the organization, with likelihood of greater loyalty from the individual.

9. Mentoring saves the organization money in retraining and orientating a total outsider and reduced wastage of resources.

Most of all,

10. Mentoring allows everybody to Excel Beyond Excellence!

How You Can Negotiate For A Long Term Win? 5 Ways To Achieve The Long Relationship Through Negotiation

September 20, 2008

It’s an intensive weekend for me today as I conducted a full day of the in-house “Effective Negotiation Skills” training for a company. I admire the fact that despite today being Saturday, an official non-working day for most, they turned up in full force. And this is still Day 1. In exactly one week’s time next Saturday, I will be conducted Day 2 of this workshop, where I will teach them the various negotiation strategies and the advanced techniques of bargaining.

When you are in business, you should aim to see things through for the long term. After all, not many people want a fly-by-night business relationship if constant cash flow and profit is the ultimate aim.

Therefore, here are some ways you have achieve the long term relationship with effective negotiation:

1. Aim for win-win and appreciate this position of interest bargaining.

2. Ensure that both find value in working with each other.

3. Maintain that relationship, and make it special.

4. Create a constant compromise that allows both party to gain continuously, hence there is always incentive to keep working together.

5. Take the intangibles into account. It’s not just about money. It often beyond the cash.

5 Ways To Increase Your Leadership Emotional Intelligence

September 16, 2008

If you are a manager, director, supervisor and the similar titles, you will be in a position to exert your leadership over your team. However, just being in this position does not immediately entitle you to become a respected leader. You’ve got to demonstrate high level of emotional intelligence in leading, facilitating and influencing your members.

At today’s training on “Emotional Intelligence at Work For Leaders”, I explored in greater details what does it mean to have better emotional intelligence as a leader. Plenty of real-life examples and scenarios were brought out for discussions. In addition, I shared with my participants the practical yet simple strategies to apply at their workplace.

I was also very pleased that the leader-participants were interactive and contributed to the discussions as well as derive further learning. It’s my pleasure and honor indeed to be serving them as their trainer. I wish them the very best in their leadership and management journey.

Adding on, here are more ways you can increase your leadership emotional intelligence:

1. Have an in-depth understanding of your personal leadership styles and tendencies

2. Understand that your own leadership has it own strengths and weaknesses. Find out what they are and work on them conscientiously.

3. Be comfortable at confronting tough leadership situations and decision making under crisis.

4. Display artful tact, empathy and diplomacy when handling conflicts and sensitivity, especially with difficult people.

5. Discover how you can appreciate your team members, staffs and subordinates in different and sincere manners.