Archive for the ‘Working Wellness’ category

How To Integrate Leadership Communication Into Your Interaction With People

November 9, 2008

I completed the first segment of the training yesterday with a sense of satisfaction. Although it was Saturday, I was glad the participant-leaders were able to be dedicating their time to better themselves. After all, this course “Communication and Problem Solving for Leaders” was specifically customized for them.

We had a fair bit of in-depth discussion on what it meant for a leader to communicate. I call this “Leadership Communication”. The participants understood that the manners and style of communication were also very much affected by the leader’s personality. Hence, I was pleased when the leaders were able to integrate the various concepts into their practice.

When we explored the concepts of leadership communication, we also derived various ways of displaying them at work.

Here are some of them:

1. Understand how your staffs prefer to interact and communicate.

2. Discuss with them your corporate goals with values and how you are going to lead them to fulfill these objectives.

3. Seek to inspire them by communicating trust in their capabilities.

4. Remember that one key element of communication is listening, active listening.

5. Let your staff know that you understand them by communicating with empathy and your willingness to adopt possible, workable ideas.

(Source: wekie.com)

Top 10 Reasons Why Your Brain “Malfunctions” Whenever You Need It To Work Most

November 3, 2008

You’ve been through this before. It was crunch time. Your future depended on it. Your happiness came down to this crucial moment. The turning point of your life beckoned. It’s make it or break it time, do or die…

Yet as you cleared your throat to speak, nothing came out. It’s not that you’ve lost your ability to articulate. But your mind just went blank. Nothing came out of your mouth. Try as you might, your brain simply refused to conjure up the next piece of sensible information. It went on strike, right on the dot.

And it couldn’t pick a better time; especially when you are attempting that 10-points examination question to graduate, bracing yourself for that love confession sentence which you’re dying to utter, and of course, the moments of awkward public speech silence. It was still on strike.

Yes, your brain left you to hang… high and dry.

And here’s why your precious brain decides to leave for a short tea-break or ‘vacation’ whenever you need it to report for work:

1. You don’t understand or know your own natural biorhythm. I call this your PPPs, “Peak Performance Period”.

2. You’ve yet to learn how to focus on what motivates. As a result you give in to distractions, internally and environmentally.

3. Your own physical body does not acquire the sufficient or suitable nutrition to keep your brain working healthily.

4. You don’t have the right motivation and driving desire to propel yourself.

5. The lack of energy and rest makes us too tired for intensive mental work.

6. You got overwhelmed by the tasks and challenges that face you. You felt too ‘microscopically and atomically small’ for such a gigantic glorious mission that might change the history of mankind and the surface of the earth.

7. Anxiety, worry, frustrations, fear took over your mind and imagination instead of you being relaxed. The stress you experienced made your mind went ‘blank’

8. It’s the result of poor thinking and working habits you’ve, intentionally or un-wittedly, adopted over the years.

9. You have yet to master your mind to a reasonable, applicable level. The techniques of mind mastery and brain power continue to lie undiscovered for you.

10. You’ve never “wanted it to work” in the first place. You saw the act as a need and as an obligation instead of an all-inspiring purpose. Hence it’s because of your attitude towards the work.

(Source: wekie.com)

5 Relevant Reframes To Help You Reframe Your Problems

November 1, 2008

One of the most common encounters I have in my trainings is that I get asked with regard to how to solve problems. And these problems placed before me range from work-place issues, career conflicts, personal motivation blockages, social and romantic relationship queries, marital concerns, life threatening obstacles and the likes. It’s always refreshing and an useful brain exercise in quick thinking to guide them in reframing these problems.

Yesterday’s training “Reframing Problems Into Opportunities” dealt specifically with resolving problems itself. The participants opened up to share and we take another look into how problems can be perceived differently. Lots of interesting cases were thrown up, examined, diagnosed and possible future were presented to them. It was most mentally stimulating indeed.

Hence, here are some of the relevant reframes we discussed. When employed, they will enable you to better reframe your problems.

1. Everything you read, encounter and experience is an attempt at reframing the problems in your life.

2. See them as issues and situations, rather than as problems.

3. Understand that for every issue, there are at least 2 sides of the coins.

4. You can choose, if you choose to. Therefore, choose to choose first.

5. The key lies in the solutions you have, not the problems you are having.

(Just a quick point to add: If the problems in your life get too overwhelming or unbearable, please get a coach or mentor now. Talk to him or her immediately. Time is of the essence.)

(Source: wekie.com)

5 Practical Ways To Build Up Your Quality Interpersonal Relationships And Network

October 16, 2008

When I completed the 2 day training on “Up Your Image with Power Dressing and Interpersonal Skills” yesterday, I had a strong sense of satisfaction and elation. I was truly happy to see how determined the participants were in wanting to make a progress change in their lives. They participated in the activities with enthusiasms and initiated several ideas of their own, from sharing how to relate with others to networking on their own.

I also liked how the class was filled with an air of tranquility and anticipated excitement, eager to go forth to make that change in their own lives. I look forward to hearing more news of how they have created even more positive relationships through their interaction with others.

Adding on, here are some of the ways that you can build your interpersonal relationship with quality and better tap on your network.

1. Maintain regular contact with each other.

2. Ensure that time is spent meaningfully.

3. Seek values agreement and acknowledgment of each other.

4. Show empathy and experience in your interaction.

5. Provide a chance for mutual progress in various aspects of your interpersonal relationships.

(Source: wekie.com)

How To Network And Communicate Your Way To Success With People?

October 8, 2008

I love the training over these 2 days! At my workshop on “Network and Communicate Your Way to Success”, we’ve interacted immensely, laughed heartily and discussed intensively the real life and relevant issues. Participations were strongly encouraged to express their viewpoints and demonstrate their networking abilities. Upon reflection, so much learning has taken place.

In addition, here are some of the ways to network and communicate with people who will help you towards your life path of success:

1. Seek to establish personal credibility and integrity.

2. Be receptive and open to different opinions and types of people you meet.

3. Maintain a fair balance of tact and diplomacy in your mannerisms.

4. Reciprocate in kind upon receiving recommendations and assistance.

5. Enhance your sense of personal touch, rapport and connection with people.

(Source: wekie.com)

7 SHAREEE Ways To Create, Build And Sustain A Successful Mentoring Relationship

October 7, 2008

I was giving a talk tonight to the NUS Toastmasters about Mentoring. Over the months, the Club has managed to put together a more formalized Mentorship Program. The response tonight was overwhelming and the energy was extremely high. Kudos to the organizers for their efforts in bringing everyone, both the Mentors and Mentees, to the same place.

During my segment, I shared with the audience the 7 useful ways to create, build and sustain the relationship between Mentors and Mentees that will foster camaraderie. It’s a series of SHAREEE ways:

System. Have a system of contact and guidance, both agreeable between the mentor and the mentee.

Honesty. Be acceptable to frank opinions and be open to share constructive criticism.

Accessibility. You can’t build a relationship with an invisible man. Both of you will have to be somewhat accessibility and available to each other, to some reasonable degree.

Reflective. This enables you to reflect on your learning and progress as time passes, deepening the value of such a mentoring relationship

Empathy. Be in each other’s shoes to understand the inner motivations and causes of behaviours. This will enhance mutual appreciation of where the other party comes from.

Experienced. The Mentor will have to be experienced in guiding and providing suitable advice. The Mentee, on the other hand, will gain experience in being mentored the right way and benefit accordingly.

Excelling. Both of you must eventually grow in your own right and be excelling in your own designed dimensions. This becomes proves that your mentoring relationship is positive and has worked for you.

In short, you Excel Beyond Excellence!

Source: wekie.com

If You Disagree With Someone…

October 5, 2008

It’s normal.

It’s human.

It’s a part of growing up.

It’s a portion of learning.

It’s a reflection of a lesson.

It’s how new worlds are defined.

It’s how new knowledge are acquired.

It’s how we get out of our comfort zone.

It’s how our dimensions are pushed beyond.

It’s how we escape from our mental ivory tower.

It’s how nations rise and fall, and rise again.

It’s how civilizations are torn and re-built.

It’s how progress for mankind is made.

It’s how we avoid becoming obsolete.

It’s how perspectives are expanded.

It’s how breakthroughs occur.

It’s just the way humans are.

It’s how we start to excel.

It’s just the way you are.

It’s just the way life is.

It’s life.

If you disagree with me,

Congratulations! Welcome to Life!

Source: wekie.com

7 Key Aspects You MUST Pay Attention To When Writing An Appealing Resume And Cover Letter

October 1, 2008

I’ve just finished conducting a very intensive two-day training yesterday on “Cover Letter, Resume and Email Writing” where we addressed some of the most pertinent issues in the job-seeking process.

As we explored the various strategies and options in writing these essentials tools in the search for jobs, the participants took note of the important yet often over-looked dimensions of cover letter and resume writing. I was pleased that everyone got started working on their letters and resumes and quite a few had produced high quality content. I wish every single one of them the very best in their job search endeavors.

Hence, if you are in the process of seeking for a new job or possibilities of career enhancement, here are the key aspects you must pay attention to when it comes to creating appealing resume and cover letter:

1. Customize them towards the individual job title, job scope, company and industry. It’s best to avoid using a ‘standard’ or ‘generic’ set of cover letter and resume for every single application you send. This will only reduce your chances as they will come across as ‘less fitting’ to what each company wants.

2. Typographical errors must be eliminated. They simply don’t provide any positive impression about you. This will not do you any justice.

3. Format them for easy reading. With the exception of cover letter, resumes should not be clumps or bunches of paragraphs where your talents are ‘hidden within the jungle’. Use bullet points and other formatting tools to enable your potential employers an easier time understanding you. On the other hand, cover letters’ paragraphing should also not be long essays with unbroken points.

4. Pay attention to the language used. As your choice of words and phrases affects the mind of the employers, take heed of using the appropriate words that will best highlight your positives and increase your chances.

5. Write them for your potential employers, instead of for yourself. Remember that your resume and cover letter is not a personal diary, writing for your own leisure reading. They are read by all the employers you send to. Therefore, write it through how they will read it, from their point, not from yours.

6. Emphasize your strengths in your letter and resume. Instead of hampering yourself or being too negative, work on bringing out your strengths and the positives through these articles. Seek a fair balance in the tone of your cover letter and draw out the affirmative aspects in your resumes.

7. Avoid unnecessary information in your cover letter and resume. Some job seekers clutter their resumes with things that are irrelevant and lost focus in the process. This will only seek to distract your potential employers from qualifying you as a likely candidate for their employment. Take care to leave out what are not necessary and put in the appropriate information in your letter and resume.

Here’s my sincerest wish to you for your success in job search. May you Excel Beyond Excellence!

*** To aid you further in your job seeking process and should you be looking out for online job sites or employment agencies, you can find some of the most helpful sites here:

Useful Job Search Sites: http://wekie.com/2007/11/06/useful-job-search-sites

Prominent Job and Employment Agencies: http://wekie.com/2008/05/13/prominent-job-and-employment-agencies

Source: wekie.com

5 Things You Should Watch Out To Provide A Sense Of Stability And Steadiness At Work

September 29, 2008

As this is another work week where people engage in various commercial and institutional events, it’s imperative that you take positive action to provide that much needed stability in the midst of the busyness. This will also help your workplace acquire a sense of steadiness and fair predictability.

In some of my recent coaching and consultations to companies, I advised on certain elements that will be helpful to create a better workplace culture. Here are some of the things you should watch out for to create that dependability in your work environment.

1. Watch out for your display of Emotional Intelligence at work

2. Watch out for the way you communicate.

3. Watch out for how your work relationships are build.

4. Watch out for how conflicts arise and nip them in the bud before they escalate.

5. Watch out for the efficiency in your work responsibilities.

How Neuro-Linguistic Programming Helps You To Manage Your Human Resource Matters At The Workplace

September 27, 2008

I was invited to give a talk to a number of human resource mangers and leaders from various companies yesterday. The talk entitled, “Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Skills” enabled me to introduce to them the origin of NLP as well as sharing with them the various concepts and techniques that will empower them to become better HR managers.

The participants were highly interactive, fun-loving and made further enquires about this practical technology of human excellence. I was glad to provide the information which can direct them to what they are looking for. And their commitment to their jobs in implementing effective HR policies for their staffs earned my respect and salutation.

Similarly, when you apply the understanding of NLP technology and concepts unto your human resource matters and issues, you will discover that NLP:

1. Gives you specific strategies to build rapport and deepen relationships with the staffs at work, influencing them faster than before.

2. Guides you to better avoid, deflect and handle conflicts and tough situations arising from work.

3. Provides you the practical tools and relevant technology to better formulate human resource policies. It also takes you into effective implementation strategies that let your staff ‘buy-in’ to these policies or directives.

In short, NLP enables you to Excel Beyond Excellence!